To Thine Own Self, Be True

F. Scott Fitzgerald once said, "I hope you live a life your proud of. If you find you're not, I hope you have the strength to start all over again."

January 2013, I have decided to start all over again. Sometimes our lives become so filled with fluff that we sometimes loose sight of what's most important. It can be such a gradual fade, that you don't realize that it's  happening. But what's most important, the moment you wake up and see that this isn't the life you're proud of, you make a change. And that is what I started yesterday. For the month of January I have chosen to limit my interaction with society(including friends) so that I can refocus and find balance in my life. I welcome change.

Surviving Singleness During the Holidays-Part 3

When I think of New Years, I envision Times Square, confetti, toasting, counting down those last 10 seconds of the New Year, and of course, that amazing kiss at New Years while gazing into that special someone's eyes and wishing them a Happy New Year. Those images aren't the most ideal for someone being single. Quite frankly, that last vision can be quite depressing. But being single allows you to stop and embrace the moment to the fullest, for there is no distraction. And there's no better time than on New Years to embrace and reflect, for New Years is about the past, present and future. 

The Past is a time of reflection before midnight. Of all the things the past year brought. Good and bad. The present would allow us to live in the moment. That very second the clock strikes midnight. And the future is what all of us look so forward too. The New Year and longing to embrace it. 

A friend told me that whatever we are doing at midnight, is what your year will be filled with.  New Years 2012 was surrounded with amazing friends and.... dateless. Guess what? 2012 was a year with lots of memories with my friends and 100% single!  This New Years was different. It was spent being a Mother. At midnight, a chair had found Layton, Adrianna, and me all in it while laughing, smiling, and of course, a kiss at midnight. Shortly after, I went to pick up Preston who was at a youth group party. I never know how the cards will have it, but I believe fate put it this way that night. Preston is getting older and spreading his wings while Layton and Adrianna are still close in my arms. Seasons change. And I feel that this New Years brought change upon us in a good way.

Robert Burn's poem is the most thought of on New Years. I really enjoy the original for I think it truly rings true with someone being single. This is the original song was written in 1711 by James Watson as follows: 

Should Old Acquaintance be forgot,
and never thought upon;
The flames of Love extinguished,
and fully past and gone:
Is thy sweet Heart now grown so cold,
that loving Breast of thine;
That thou canst never once reflect
On Old long syne.

The past is old long ago. I'm ready for the New Year and new memories with old friends. For the past will never be the future. So why turn back? Lets embrace the present and look towards the future. Happy New Years!